You SHOULD Be Afraid of Marriage:
UNLESS You Know These Things

Description

This 45-minute class was given in response to a church young single adults (YSA) group asking Jonathan to come address the fears and concerns many youth have about marriage. Read what they thought about this class in their eval at the bottom of this page. 

Jonathan Sherman, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, delivers a presentation to a young single adult church group to address fears about marriage. He emphasizes the importance of knowledge and preparation in building successful relationships. Sherman discusses common myths and emphasizes the significance of pre-marital counseling. He introduces key concepts like the importance of applying the right skills, understanding behavioral indicators, and developing a strategic approach to relationships using tools like the OUR WAY marriage plan. Drawing from research, including John Gottman's studies, Sherman provides insights into the behaviors that predict marital success and offers practical advice to help couples create and maintain GREAT relationships.

• 00:00 Introduction and Purpose of the Presentation

• 00:41 The Reality of Marriage Fears

• 02:20 Common Myths and Misconceptions

• 03:36 The Importance of Knowledge and Skills

• 05:24 The Role of Premarital Counseling

• 08:28 Statistics and Realities of Marriage

• 11:56 The Value of Preparation and Education

• 18:26 Mindset and Commitment in Relationships

• 21:10 Filter Faster: Setting Boundaries in Relationships

• 21:45 The Strategic Approach to Marriage

• 22:27 Predicting Marital Success with Behavioral Indicators

• 23:33 The Magic Ratio: Positive to Negative Interactions

• 26:10 Turning Towards vs. Turning Away: Key Behaviors

• 28:47 Understanding Primal Reactions in Conflicts

• 30:32 The Importance of Conflict in Relationships

• 35:16 Creating a Personalized Relationship Playbook

• 38:51 The OUR WAY Plan topics

• 40:09 Final Thoughts

Audience: Religious and Secular

Given to a religious group. While there are spiritual tie-ins, the research is secular-based and relevant to all.

Included:

• 45-minute audio of the live class (you can listen while you do other things)

• PDF of the following handouts referenced in the class:

  • The “Our Way” Marriage Plan

  • The Realistic Expectations Roadmap: Navigating Marital Myths

  • Building Strong Families with "A-Triple C-T-S": Characteristics and Principles

  • Building Strong Families with "A-Triple C-T-S": Building Marital Strengths

  • Communicating and Relating, from “Speaking Manglish and Womanese: Bridging the Gender Gap”

  • Sex and Intimacy, from “Speaking Manglish and Womanese: Bridging the Gender Gap”